Attachment Styles Quiz

Since I wrote about attachment behavior earlier today, and then happened across attachment again while reading others’ blogs, I ended up searching the internet for information and happened across an attachment styles quiz. Being an online questionnaire it’s not a medically-regocnized test, obviously, but I thought it was fun and took it anyway and I found it relatively good, even, to get a rough general idea. The Website belongs to A Diane Poole Heller, who’s apparently an author and attachment and trauma specialist. The questions are designed to apply to couples, but I figure it works just as well with significant others who are not partners.

The catch is that in order to see your results you need to subscribe to her website, but hey, I get a lot of junk mail anyway, so one more hardly matters. :-/

Here’s what my results said. (If you want to take the quiz, too, click on the picture, I linked it to the quiz.)


No big surprises there, and my feeling says that my results are even pretty accurate. I’m happy that I scored at least 13,3% Secure Attachment. I’m quite sure that wasn’t always so, just as I’m sure my Disorganized piece was way larger once. Which means that I’m actually getting somewhere. So even when I got quite a colorful attachment pie, it could be worse.  Like, all green, or something. That’s probably how it looked when I was little. But colorful is definitely better. 🙂

18 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. vwoopvwoop
    Jan 24, 2013 @ 04:37:21

    thanks for the link, i took the quiz and got like 37% avoidant, kind of interesting. 12.5% secure. my bpd sister has been interested in attachment theory lately so i think i’ll direct her toward this quiz. i’m glad your graph is colorful and not just all green, you’re making progress! i wonder if it’s possible to get results on this quiz that show high levels of secure attachment? maybe it is something to take again in a year and see if there is any change.

    • Lola
      Jan 24, 2013 @ 06:16:18

      Cool that your sister is interested in attachment theory! I suppose it must be possible to get high levels of secure attachment, too, on the quiz. But from what you have described about the way you go about relationships, how you try to make sure others get their needs met, but rather keep to yourself when your own needs are concerned (at least if I understood that correctly), that sounds like it might go well with scoring relatively high in the avoidant category. But hey, at least it IS an attachment style. Not like disorganized, which is really pretty much the absence of one. And yeah, it’s probably a good idea to re-test eventually to see if the result is different then.

      (Dang, and now I kind of want to know my proper results, not just the ones from an online questionnaire.)

  2. nobodysreadingme
    Jan 24, 2013 @ 10:57:22

    Colourful is definitely good; 13.3% secure is also good.
    Me, I don’t have the nerve to try this. I can justify this by saying I’m not half of a couple, not a scaredycat at all

  3. prideinmadness
    Jan 24, 2013 @ 16:07:42

    I got:
    Secure 17
    Avoidant 7
    Anxious/Ambivalent 16
    Disorganized 7

    I guess I’m fairly “balanced”. This of course all changes when I go into a rage :p

  4. gypsy116
    Jan 24, 2013 @ 21:33:54

    Our numbers arent exactly the same, but our pieces of the pie are. Like my biggest piece is anxious/ambivalent, followed closely by disorganized, then avoidant and then secure.

  5. shainawhite
    Apr 01, 2013 @ 10:44:22

    Secure 10
    Avoidant 18
    Anxious/Ambivalent 17
    Disorganized 19

    I tend to runaway and avoid confrontations, and It causes anxiety. I’m also very disorganized. I am not stable or secure.

    • Lola
      Apr 04, 2013 @ 16:43:01

      Sounds quite familiar, all that! I so try to run away from confrontations, too. But my mom gently insists I face them, and I guess I’ve gotten a bit better at that. But the tendency is still there.

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